Meditating to Start a New Life… Again

As the number of blog posts has gone down in the last several months, so have the number of times I have meditated.

To reiterate the About Meditating Millennial section, I created this blog to hold myself accountable—to motivate myself to start meditating, and to keep meditating. However, I recently lost sight of that mission statement.

As a result, I witnessed myself slowly regress back into the person who I was before I started this blog. Not completely, but enough so that I was aware of the regression happening. I too often came up with excuses why I couldn’t make time to meditate.

Prior to forgetting that mission statement, back when I prioritized meditation in my life, I felt myself becoming the man I wanted to be. My physical self, my mental self, and my spiritual self were at their peaks. I was living in the present moment. I was comfortable with who I was—whether it was by myself, or when I was with other people. I was aware of my time, making it so that whatever I did had a positive impact on my well-being. Everything I did had a purpose; living purposefully had become a motto of mine, and practicing mindfulness had helped me follow through on that motto. Physically, mentally, and spiritually working in unison to build the Meditating Millennial that at one point was churning out a blog post consistently on a weekly basis.

But it did not last forever.

A day would pass where I wouldn’t meditate. A day would become two days. Then three. Then a week. Weeks. Finally months until I lost count; I couldn’t even remember the last time I had meditated. And as each meditation-less day went on, pieces of me—from all that I had built up in the previous year—were being chipped away little by little. Until finally, a noticeable chunk had gone missing.

I am no longer Meditating Millennial. Instead, I am Meditating Millennial Minus a Chunk.

But now I start anew. I made a lot of progress in the first year. I had a little setback, but it’s only helped me realize how important it is to keep up a meditation routine. It’s not the first setback I’ve had, and it won’t be the last. The only thing I can do is learn from it, and make a change going forward. Just as the sun comes up from the night sky, so must I rise again as well.

 

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14 thoughts on “Meditating to Start a New Life… Again”

  1. 🙂 i’ve done this so many times! it was wonderful for me to come up with the thought that i was “irregularly regular or regularly irregular” with my practice. it got me out of the black&white (you’re either in or out, and if you miss your practice then you’re out!) and put into words that i was committed to always coming back, to this orientation i had chosen. enjoy your comeback!!!

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  2. Thanks for sharing so honestly! Thank you so much for following my blog!

    I don’t meditate in the traditional sense. I walk… I try to be around trees as much as I can when I walk… I feel the grounding and calming energy. I also make art intuitively, which allows me to get into a zen zone. Those are my ways of meditating. By not “thinking”, I allow my mind and spirit to connect and bring me information, I also pray, but not in what one would call a religious way… more like speaking honestly, offering thanks and asking for help.

    I realize that traditionalists in meditation would find my ways to go against the grain, but I believe there are a few ways we can achieve the benefits meditation brings.

    I’ve learned there’s ebbs and flows in life. There will be times that we can stick faithfully to a routine and other times not so much. What’s important is that we pick ourselves up and just get back on track as best as we can, as soon as we can!

    Bravo to you for getting back into your routine!

    Peace,
    Tamara

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  3. Thanks for sharing so honestly. We often start our meditation practice with enthusiasm but it’s true that once we miss a day that can easily become two or three or even longer. Don’t worry, just start over – it happens to us all. Good luck.

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  4. It took me years to truly commit to maintaining a daily practice. Something has to click within so that you feel it to be as important as eating, as breathing. What worked for me was to set a daily optimal length of time to sit (being 30 minutes for me), but also allow myself to count lest time than that an occasional fallback (underscore “occasional”). And I track my practice (using Excel) which also helps me stay in integrity with my commitment (I will send you a blank copy if you want to try it). Daily momentum is more important than how long you sit. Length of sits will naturally increase at their own pace. Also, having a practice community makes a big difference.
    Keep showing up!
    Paco

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      1. I practice with an American Zen order called Hollow Bones. We have what we call Five Training Elements: 1) Sacred Stewardship, 2) Philosophical Reorientation, 3) Psychological Maturity, 4) Conscious Embodiment, 5) Genuine Insight/Meditation. We self-create practice commitments for each, usually as weekly goals, and adjust them as needed (dial back if it was over-ambitious; expand it if it is too easy or there’s a need to stretch further). For newer practitioners, this occurs with the support of a facilitator, if desired. A commitment might be to do sitting meditation for 30 minutes a day, six days a week; or, read a Buddhist text for an average of 15 minutes a day. The key is to find the midpoint between the commitments being a challenge, yet attainable. More detail on the Five Elements is in the sutra book at http://www.mondozen.org/resource_library/documents.htm

        There is a column for the date, then a column each for the Five Elements. I set it up for Excel to tally the weekly (minutes and hours) and annual (hours) amounts, so that I know if I’m meeting my weekly commitments. It serves as both as a reminder and encouragement. If you would like, I’ll send you a blank copy with all the calculating formulas set up.

        Namaste

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  5. I love the way you have risen again, like a Phoenix. My advice would be, don’t try to regain the ‘chunk’ you’ve ‘lost’. Expand and find a new horizon within you ♥

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  6. Hi there,

    Thank you for following my blog. I was reading through some of your posts, and I do hope you find the energy and determination to start fresh and keep improving yourself, as this is a task that is never done. I think that no matter what the challenge you set yourself out to accomplish is, there are always gonna be moments where you lose sight of it. What matters is that you have the strength to motivate yourself again daily until it becomes part of your routine. Keeping my fingers crossed for you as I am going through the same!

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  7. I started my fitness blog for the same reason; accountability. I know next to nothing about living a healthy lifestyle so a blog about it seemed ludicrous at first, but knowing there are people watching me is a huge motivator. Failing in front of an audience is a big enough fear for me to keep me focused on succeeding.

    Thanks for the blog follow. I thought I’d come check out yours in return and it’s up my alley. I’ve followed your blog as well. 🙂 Best wishes.

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  8. It’s very easy for this to happen, but it is most important to recognize it and start again, just as you are. I wish you the best in your journey! My meditation has gotten better, but I’ve fallen off with my gym routine, and that honestly is just as much a part of my practice as meditation is. I use them together to enhance both mind and body. I don’t like the feelings I get when I realize that is all slipping away. I hope you can reconnect with your practice and get back on track soon!

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  9. I really like the feeling of surrender and acceptance that I feel in the atmosphere of this post. Observing life with non-judgementality, acceptance and a sort of detatchment, an observer point of view, isn’t that part of the practice.

    Good job and thumbs up, both on the observations, their atmosphere and on starting anew with the practice as well. It is very precious to just look at what Is.

    All the best,
    Krista

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