Nowadays, it doesn’t take much for me to sit and meditate. Once I decide I want to, I go and do it. It wasn’t always like that. When I first started meditating, it took a lot for me to decide on a time and actually follow through with it. Being able to sit for more than just a few minutes at a time was another problem I faced.
Today, for the first time, I meditated in the rain.
I actually started meditating in the middle of the year. So technically meditation wasn’t a New Year’s Resolution for me. Personally, I was never successful in completing my New Year’s Resolutions, so I don’t partake in them anymore. Instead, if I want to make a change in my life, I try to plan and act on it as soon as I can, which can be at any time of the year.
But once I did decide to start meditating consistently, here’s what worked for me:
After I meditate, I get in a positive mindset. I am working on bringing that positive mindset to my daily life even when I am not sitting in a meditation session.
Lately, I have been doing a lot of reading on meditative walking, something I believe I can incorporate into my life. On weekdays, sometimes I am unable to wake up early enough to meditate in the morning before work, so having a meditative walking session during the day would be a good alternate. I usually take a walk during my breaks anyway, but I always have my headphones in and listen to music. Today, I decided to take out the headphones and do my first meditative walking session.
This morning’s meditation session was intense. I have been meditating now for about a month. I got my routine down to 3-4 times a week, usually in the morning before work and on Saturdays when my fiancée is at her job. For every session before todays, my experience has always been different. Sometimes I get a lot out of it, and other times I feel like it’s a waste of my time.
This morning, however, was definitely mind opening.
Because my last attempt at meditating didn’t turn out so well, I decided to try doing things differently. Instead of positioning myself on the bed, I changed my room of choice to the living room.
Another difference was the frequency. Initially I chose to meditate only once a week, but it turns out that is not frequent enough for me. My fiancée was out on this particular Sunday, just one day after my second attempt at meditating. She is a bridesmaid in one of her friend’s wedding, and they had a bridesmaid dress fitting today.
Why did I start meditating? To answer this question, I will first talk a little bit about my background. I am extremely fortunate to have grown up with two supportive parents and a loving family. Not everyone has that type of living environment, so I can say I am very lucky to have been raised under those circumstances.
Ever since I was in elementary school, my future was laid out for me: study, do well in high school, go to a good college and get a degree in a discipline that makes a lot of money. My parents drilled it into my head ever since I was little. So, that’s exactly what happened—I graduated with honors in high school, got my degree after going to university and landed a job within months of walking the aisle in my cap and gown. Unfortunately, cohorts of my generation were unable to find a job in their field because of the recessive economy at the time. It sucked seeing close friends having to move halfway across the country just to be working in the career they spent four-plus years studying for.